Accepting Who You Are BY In2wishin
One of the current problems many people face on a daily basis is their ability to feel accepted by others. Most people, if not all, have at least one stage in their lives felt rejected by others, either in school, at home or elsewhere amongst the community in which they reside.
The most common reasons for the majority of people’s sense of non-acceptance stems from being bullied because of their race, ethnic and religious beliefs, a disability or something as small as the quality of their lifestyle, or even their current living conditions.
The reason for such a statement is to get the point across that there are some people out there, striving to downgrade and demonise people for them to maintain their sense of superiority, as well as strengthen the false identity they have created for themselves. That false identity (ego) is formed by their perception and beliefs that they themselves are separate from the whole (all living things) and are not in union and harmony with all else that exists. When their Real Self is connected to the All-That-Is. This connection to the whole (God/Universe), which all living organisms have, resides in their hearts, beyond what their minds continuously try cover up with its desires for seeking outside for completion of that which we already are, complete.
How do I know? Because I was one of those children growing up in the midst of it all, as my family struggled for money, pushing all the worries of the material world away by covering it up with habitual drug abuse. We only lived in a small commission house and had very little material possessions. I was labelled “poor”, “dero”, and considered an inferior outcast to all the children who had, I guess, a steady family income and could get all the latest gadgets they wanted. At the time, I had very little love for myself, accepting that maybe I was “just not good enough”. Little did I know that those feelings of unrest and separation would empower and strengthen a knowing in me that would transcend all feelings of disconnection as I began to turn and reflect inwards on the truth that everything outside myself was a reflection of the inner world within. When I chose to feel and embrace all the pain and suffering I had within, I came to learn that it was neither the hate or negativity projected by others that was the reason for my suffering, but the pain was already there, due to my inability to embrace and accept myself wholly as I am through unconditional love. Those individuals could only be a catalyst to trigger it. Every time I felt pain and suffering because of the actions of others, was because they reflected, whatever it was in me I had not yet embraced and accepted with love.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but to merely seek and find all barriers you have built against it.” – Rumi
Every day there are victims to these types of people who do their best to deprive them of their ability to receive love, but it’s not those people who are the fault of their suffering, but the barriers they themselves have built up against love and accepting who they are. Imagine if everyone had the awareness that when someone would speak ill or act out in hatred, that it was all a reflection of themselves. Imagine if they accepted themselves for who they are, and when anyone would try to downgrade them or demonise them, they were aware that it all stems from the non-acceptance of themselves, that they are disconnected from who they really are, as well as the whole, and instead of feeding their fuel with retaliation of the same nature, they would show compassion and forgiveness, bringing light to the their clouded illusion. Our deepest desires are to reunite and be in union with life. How can you be in union in life, if you do not accept who you are and forever separate yourself from the whole? Joining rests on forgiveness. We must first forgive everything and everyone that we have ever blamed, everyone we have ever held accountable for our pain. We must forgive ourselves for the mistakes we have made. Everything in our life started as a thought, which is then amplified to a feeling, followed by it reaching the physical plane of existence. We are the Creator of our reality, what we choose to think, feel and act is then reflected out and made known as our physical world. When we manage to accept and embrace ourselves with love, that is. when love is reflected in our lives. The more we choose to join and commune together with all beings through love, that is when our lives begin to be in harmony with Life itself. Our hearts begin to guide us, instead of the chaotic murmurs of the mind. May your heart be open and love flow freely through you, transmuting all that is of fear, and not your highest good to the light. If we could accept ourselves as we are, which is love at our deepest level, knowing right now is exactly where we need to be, everything else will take care of itself. Stand in your truth, and like a lion when let loose, the truth will defend itself.
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ~ C.G Jung